My wife and I had a long talk a few minutes ago. Tension has been building up for a few days now and we’ve been snapping at each other more than we really should. And in cases like this one she’s much better at defusing a rotting situation.
Since her father decided to make the trip from home to “help” his daughter, I did not understand when I would notice some things that went unchanged or neglected. It has been quite hard on me this week because I am still working my 8 hours and getting little sleep and yet having to hear about dishes and laundry. Anyway, I had confirmation of what I had noticed, meaning that her dad actually is not really helping that much. I mean, I understand that he is older and has health problems, but his visit was supposed to help around the house. Instead, it seems more like he’s on vacation and that is really posing a problem. But now, since we did talk and my wife filled me in on what’s going on, it’s just a matter of holding for 2 more days, until the weekend. Her dad will be leaving Sunday, so it’s a question of being very patient till then. And I’ll be off next week, so it should be a little calmer around here.
The major event of the day was the baby’s first bath. He was a real pro, crying just a little bit and I made sure that nobody was going to steal this moment from me. With my daughter, I was left out by my wife who thought it was her mother’s role to be there for the first bath.
Also, another nice thing is that the baby is sleeping more and crying less. We have been able to get some real stretches of sleep during the night and this less than a week after he was born. I just cannot fathom the idea of having 2 perfect children. Or for them to be this good until they reach their teens…
I was going through the list of people whom I sent an e-mail announcing the birth and there are some people I have not heard from and I find it rather surprising. I mean, I understand people are busy and might not find the time to call or come by, but no phone call or e-mail? Hmm…
Anyway, that’s enough b*tching for one night. I’d better take advantage and go to sleep right now.
Till then…
It must be difficult to have your FIL around if he’s not being helpful. Having a “visitor” immediately after bringing home your new baby is probably the last thing you need and I understand your frustration.
I’m amazed the baby is already developing good sleep patterns! That is definitely a gift.
If indeed he had helped, things would have been different, but that was not the case. Anyway, it’s about time to put all that behind and move forward.
And yes, it is so nice to be able to get some sleep at night! Hopefully, he’ll keep up the good work!